Why Should You Take Nutrition Advice From Me???

by danielle on December 6, 2012

For a long time I’ve been a bit afraid to post my actual personal thoughts on here. What if someone judges me? Doesn’t like what I have to say? What then? Well enough of that! Every Thursday I’m going to share my personal thoughts with you. They may be nutrition related they may be totally random. But I want to grow and I want you to grow along with me! Here we go…

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Why Should You Take Nutrition Advice From Me???

I love what I do. Simply love it. So whenever I get talking to someone most likely it will come up that I am a nutrition coach. Well this came up the other day and I received the response: “I would only take nutrition advice from someone who is like 100lbs and 10% body fat”. After the initial shock of the response I thought about what he had just said to me. I don’t think it was a personal insult but you better believe some level of self-consciousness arose and I took it as one. Ten minutes later, the ultimate comeback popped into my head (I am not quick and witty and yes it often takes me 10 minutes for a good comeback). I was 100lbs before…in fact 95lbs and very low body fat and you know what? I was the unhealthiest at that period in my life that I had ever been. I considered sugar free meringues a food group and peanut butter was eaten out of a teaspoon. Sound healthy to you?

Where am I going with this? Never let the fear of your body image hold you back from anything. No one should ever judge you for the way that you appear and if they do the problem does not lie in you but rather in the person making that snap judgment. This post takes courage to write because for the longest time the biggest thing holding me back from pursuing a career in nutrition was the concern that I wasn’t “fit” enough or “thin” enough to offer nutrition advice. But here’s the thing, if I was in perfect shape, fit, lean, and active for most of life, how could I help you cope with your struggles? I have been to hell and back with my nutrition, followed diet after diet, cried on the scale, in the dressing room, and in front of the mirror. I’ve skipped nights out because I didn’t like how I looked or what I had to wear. Yep I’ve been there through all of it and I’ve gotten out on the other side and I want to help you do the same.

I want you to think about the last time you made a judgment about someone because of the way they looked or acted in your first encounter? Why did you assume that about them? Was it true?

I also want you to think, really think if there is anything about your body image that is holding you back? Are you afraid to do something because of how you look? What is it? Where is that fear coming from?

Now I want you to go out and pursue what you are afraid of. It might be scary, you might be judged, but you have all the tools you need. Don’t let fear of judgment get you down!

Post your answers to my questions in the comments below. I can’t wait to read them. 

Lots of Love

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Lucie December 6, 2012 at 10:55 am

Danielle, this is such a wonderful post. I can only tell that you are the BEST Health Coach anyone can wish for, you were such a great support for me!! Thank you for sharing our thoughts!! I did jusge people a lot in the past, when I was a teen but I got much more wise about that and son’t judge anymore because I do not want to be judged either. And there are always situations my body image is holding me back. So many parties I feel I’d rather stay home, fearing that there are women who are 100times more beautiful than I am and I am not supposed to be around them. I definitely work on that!!

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:25 pm

Thanks so much Lucie. You were also a pleasure to coach :) You can totally get past that fear of not wanting to go out. Don’t let that body image hold you back any longer. You are beautiful on the inside and out!!

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Brittany @ Itty Bits of Balance December 6, 2012 at 11:29 am

A to the men sister! You couldn’t be more spot on.

When I started Itty Bits, my priority in the “health” area of my life was to basically get skinny. After struggling with the effects of my choice and in result having to put weight BACK ON, I don’t think I’ve ever understood or valued the true meaning of “health” better than I do now. It’s amazing how each of our paths teach us so much about ourselves.

Thanks for writing, Danielle! (And see, I’m still reading from the sidelines ;) )

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:26 pm

So happy to hear from you!!! I’m definitely missing your posts. It really is crazy how much everything really does work out as a learning experience.

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kim@hungryhealthygirl December 6, 2012 at 11:51 am

What a great post! I really love your honesty because whether we want to admit it or not, a lot of us has been there. I still stuggle daily with whether I’m fit enough or if I eat this am I practicing what I preach. It helps to know that others go through the same mental struggles. I try to appreciate my body and the fitness level that I’m personally at. I tell myself to just do the best that I can do, at this present time.

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:27 pm

Thanks Kim. You are so right. It is so important to know that we are enough no matter where we are at in our lives. I think I will always be my worst critic and think that is so true for so many other people out there so I’m so happy you could relate!

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Anna @AnnaTheApple December 6, 2012 at 12:40 pm

They seriously said that to you? Unbelievable! And rude! Jeeze, there are some numpties inthe world. I totally agree with you on this one. Surely health and nutrition isn’t about getting stick thin, it’s about being healthy inside and out, eating a balanced and nutritious diet and not trying to strive towards an unrealistic body type. Not everyone can be 100lbs!!

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:27 pm

Thanks for the support Anna and I couldn’t agree with you more!

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John December 6, 2012 at 12:45 pm

Great post Danielle, very well thought out!!! Everyone is going to have their own opinion, so you have to be prepared for the negative ones when posting your thoughts in a blog for everyone to see. You can’t let that discourage you, and just continue to do what you love. You are very knowledgeable and passionate about what you do, and have so much experience with dieting and working out. From nutrition, dance, group exercise, to crossfit, you have a very broad perspective on fitness today. You are right on when you said that skinny doesn’t always = healthy! Everyone’s body is different, and everyone has their own baseline and goals. This person obviously has some insecurities, or is just to ignorant to realize that he could have learned something from you. When I went to personal training seminars, even if I learned one new thing, it was worth going to for me. I don’t care how good of shape you are in, there is always someone out there that is going to know more about training and/or nutrition. We can all learn from one another and that’s the attitude everyone should have or else we won’t continue to grow and learn new things. If I see someone at the gym that might not be as big or as fit as me, but they are doing a new exercise that I have never tried before, I won’t smirk at them or judge them like you see some people doing. I probably will go up to them and say that it looks interesting and can you show me the proper form. The people that give a rude look probably have been doing them same routine for the last 10 years and are afraid of change (most likely they are wearing the same cut off sweatshirt or balloon pants from when they last changed their workout too :-) . Anyway, please continue to post great recipes and nutrition advice because there are plenty of people who don’t let their egos get in the way and truly appreciate it! I was tired of cooking chicken and vegetables all the time too!

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:37 pm

Thanks so much John! I couldn’t agree with you more. Any opportunity is a learning experience and we all have such different experiences that it is impossible to know everything about a person just because of they way they look! More healthy recipes to come :)

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Kristen@Change of Pace December 6, 2012 at 12:52 pm

This is a great post and I hope there’s more of them like this! I’ve always been about a number on the scale and the size that I wear. Just recently have I changed my way of thinking. Now it’s all about how much I can lift or how far I can run. I don’t even weigh myself anymore! I’ve been looking at people in a new light as well. Instead of judging people I wonder how they feel about themselves. I wonder if they felt like me. I wish I could help people that do feel the way I felt about my weight.

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:35 pm

That is so awesome that you have changed your outlook Kristen and yes there will be more posts like this to come. I went through a similar outlook change too and it is so much relief to not have the number on the scale weighing over your head. I’m sure you will help many people open their eyes to a new way of thinking about their bodies. Just keep sharing your story.

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Stephanie @itrainthereforeieat December 6, 2012 at 1:13 pm

We should take nutrition advice from you because you’re a kick-ass, smart, honest nutrition coach who went through a fabulous Master’s program ;) Seriously though, I can’t believe someone said that to you, and I wish you had been able to say that comeback to their face! (although I’m the same… I think of a retort like a day after an incident). Love your honesty in this post, and you’re absolutely right. Being a great nutritionist has nothing to do with what size pants you wear!

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:34 pm

Thanks for the support Stephanie. I am the worst with quick comebacks! I still need to take you with me to CrossFit sometime too ;)

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Chelsea @ One Healthy Munchkin December 6, 2012 at 1:27 pm

Are you kidding me? Someone actually said that to your face?! I’m so proud of you for not letting that comment get you down. That person obviously doesn’t understand what real health is, because real health is NOT about being thin. You eat well, you workout, and you have a great outlook which is way healthier than being skinny! :D

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:33 pm

Thanks so much Chelsea! I 100% agree with you!

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Brittany @ GOtheXtraMile December 6, 2012 at 1:44 pm

Wow, seriously?! Whoever said that is out of their mind!!! You are a strong girl, Danielle! Don’t let anyone bring you down. Nutrition has absolutely nothing to do with what people look on the outside anyway. You know your stuff and that’s all that matters!! You are awesome. <3

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:32 pm

Thanks so much Brittany :)

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Kaitlin @4loveofcarrots December 6, 2012 at 2:01 pm

what a jerk!! I would talk nutrition advice from you because I a.) know your healthy b.) know you are passionate and c.) know what balance is and d.) an iin student! I love this post! People can be so rude sometimes, it is hard to not take it personal at times but you know their comment had nothing to do with you and was the person’s own insecurities and issues!

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:32 pm

Thanks so much Kaitlin! We totally need to talk IIN sometime. Are you close to graduation??

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Michelle @ Eat Move Balance December 6, 2012 at 2:48 pm

Great post, Danielle! My personal image has held me back before, but I try my best to not let that happen. And I experience the same thoughts/reactions as you have–especially since pursuing certification as a health coach. Why would anyone want help from me? Well that’s easy–because I care. Because I’m passionate. And because while I may not know EVERYTHING, I certainly know a lot, am always learning more, and want to share! Self confidence is a very important quality to have and keep–so it’s definitely a work in progress, but I know it’s powerful!

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:31 pm

Yes yes yes!!! I couldn’t agree with you more!

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Amanda @ .running with spoons. December 6, 2012 at 2:48 pm

I’m glad you decided to share your thoughts with us :) But I seriously can’t believe someone said that to you. Ugh. Buddy was obviously a) stupid, b) ignorant, c) uninformed, or d) all of the above. I would take advice from you in a second because you know your stuff and you’re passionate about it. That and you’re definitely right that having personal experience with those kind of issues puts you in that much of a better place to help people. Don’t let something stupid like this shake your confidence.

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:31 pm

Thanks so much for the vote of confidence Amanda!

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Kierston December 6, 2012 at 3:52 pm

Great post my friend. I like that you are sharing your thoughts with us this Thursday. Health isn’t about looking a certain way. It’s about treating your body right and taking good care of it with love, exercise and good food.

Keep doing what you’re doing!

xo

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:30 pm

Thanks so much Kierston and I couldn’t agree with you more :)

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Anne@ LoveMintChocolateChip December 6, 2012 at 4:04 pm

This is a great post. So eye opening. Isn’t is sad that our society automatically associates very thin with being healthy and fit when in fact in can be the complete opposite? I know people probably look at me and think there is no way she works out and eats healthy… because I am far from freakishly fit or thin. Thank you for sharing this with us!!

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:30 pm

I agree Anne it really is scary how there are such extreme opinions in our society when it comes to who is “fit” and who is “beautiful”. I do think things are slowly starting to change for the better and am happy to spread some more light on the reality!

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Lisa December 6, 2012 at 4:11 pm

Love this Danielle. I think you would be an excellent nutrition coach. You’re totally speaking the truth in this post and I’m glad you shared this side to you! I can’t believe someone said that to you…not okay! Ugh, why do people feel they can say this stuff.

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:28 pm

Thanks so much Lisa!

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corrie anne December 6, 2012 at 4:19 pm

That’s really crazy that someone said that!!! I would definitely prefer to take nutrition advice from someone who’s healthy.

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 4:28 pm

Agreed!

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Chelsa December 6, 2012 at 5:34 pm

What a jerk that guy is! Some people are so ignorant. Your healthy eating definitely inspires me because you’re so well balanced and you eat tons of veggies all the time. I can’t wait to read more about your nutritional opinions. I would love to know what you think.

One thing I love about your eating style is that you don’t use protein powder and stevia in every single recipe.

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 6:33 pm

Thanks Chelsa. I am a big believer in eating food the way it is meant to be! I can’t wait to share some more of my nutrition opinions with you!

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Laura @ Mommy Run Fast December 6, 2012 at 5:41 pm

Beautiful post! What a ridiculous and naive thing to say… your comeback is right on. Healthy cannot be defined by weight, and the skinniest people are often not very healthy in terms of bone heatlh, balanced eating, and self-confidence (although there certainly are tiny people who are very healthy!)
In any case, thanks for your thoughts. I’m excited to be on this health coach journey with you- loving INN so far!

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 6:33 pm

I’m excited you’re on this journey with me! Thank you for your kind words!

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Laura @ Sprint 2 the Table December 6, 2012 at 6:00 pm

People are so stupid. I love your approach and would definitely get nutrition inspiration from you. :)

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danielle December 6, 2012 at 6:33 pm

Thanks so much Laura!

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Rachel December 6, 2012 at 7:43 pm

I so wish I could write more but I’m pressed for time at work lol but wow.. just wow.. this post made me love you even more :) you seem to have a great mind set on all aspects of life :)

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danielle December 7, 2012 at 1:43 pm

Aww thanks so much Rachel!

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Madi December 6, 2012 at 9:26 pm

thank you soo soo much for writing this! i am a group fitness instructor and have been struggling with body issues my entire life. everytime i enter the classroom and see girls thinner or more toned than i am, i immediately think they won’t enjoy the class or won’t take my advice seriously because i have a little extra somethin’ around the middle. it is always so great to hear that other people have experienced the same thing and can overcome it. this was just what i needed today!

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danielle December 7, 2012 at 1:44 pm

I’m so happy to hear I could be of help! I am a group fitness instructor too so it sounds like we have a lot in common. Feel free to reach out if you ever want to chat!

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Danielle's Mom December 7, 2012 at 2:48 am

Danielle reading this made me very emotional, i know how hard it was for you to open up like this. I am so proud of you! what you have gone through in your life has made you the compassionate, understanding and incredibly knowledgeable person that you are. Love you!!!!

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danielle December 7, 2012 at 1:45 pm

Awww Mom!!! Thanks so much! Love you too and wouldn’t have gotten through all of this without you!

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Brittany @ Delights and Delectables December 7, 2012 at 3:29 am

I would so take nutrition advice from you!! Send it all my way! People used to take my advice more seriously when I was super skinny… now that I’m back at a healthy weight, not so much. It is crazy how people associate “healthy” with “stick thin!”

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danielle December 7, 2012 at 1:45 pm

It really is crazy!! Thanks for the support!

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Katelyn December 7, 2012 at 4:15 am

You are amazing! You are the kindest, most considerate person I know (and most knowledgeable about nutrition) and I am so proud of you for sharing your experiences with everyone. Love you!

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danielle December 7, 2012 at 1:47 pm

Thank you Katelyn! That means more than you know to me! Love you too!

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Oriana December 7, 2012 at 4:44 am

Danielle this was an awesome post and that takes a lot of courage. You are awesome! I would like to take some nutrition lessons from you bc my eating habits suck! Lets get together soon! <3 Oriana

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danielle December 7, 2012 at 1:47 pm

Thanks so much Oriana! Let’s definitely get together soon :)

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kelly mcguill December 7, 2012 at 2:35 pm

Hi Danielle,
I am so excited that you will be posting regularly , I’m signed up. Thank you for sharing. I’ve always thought you were amazingly beautiful on the inside and out…You go girl…
xo, kelly

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danielle December 7, 2012 at 6:04 pm

Thanks so much Kelly!!!

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Lauren @ The Homeostatic Mindset December 7, 2012 at 5:19 pm

Thank you SO much for opening up! To be honest, your blog has felt so impersonal…I still loved reading and continued to come back daily, but I always wanted to learn more about YOU!!!! I feel like I can finally connect :) I’m so sorry that you also went through what SO many women go through….and I’m SO sorry that you had to deal with a jerky comment. People are so ridiculous…Glad you held your head high though! I’ve been there too and that time in my life was absolute HELL. You are healthy and happy now! I definitely would never take advice from someone who was so underweight…100lbs and 10%bf? Cray

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danielle December 7, 2012 at 6:07 pm

Yay! So happy you feel a little more connected! It’s quite a hurdle for me but I am going to continue to share more personal stories on a more regular basis so get ready. I think I was so afraid of putting myself out there too much for fear of negativity but no longer!!! Thanks for your support :)

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lindsay December 7, 2012 at 6:22 pm

this is why we need more NUTRITIONIST like you. The honest, real,been there, done that, I can relate, wholesome nutritionist. There are no shortcuts to health, just day by day choices. Thank you for opening up today Danielle.

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danielle December 8, 2012 at 4:44 pm

Thanks so much Lindsay! What a kind comment!

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Caitlin December 7, 2012 at 8:33 pm

It’s so nice to learn more about you on this blog Danielle! You are so bright, cheery, and happy all the time and it is hard to hold back your emotions if you are feeling anything negative. Not that I’m saying you have been – it’s great to be so happy! But if ever you’re feeling something like this it’s wonderful to get it off your chest and it will rseult in inspiring posts like this. I have to remind myself a lot of the time that back when I was 95 pounds and too petrified to eat even a bite of bread, I was NOT happy. Skinny does not equal happiness. That person who said that to you may not have had the experience of being “100 lbs and 10% body fat” but if he did then I can bet you he would not be at the happiest point in his life. I applaud you for sharing this post and showing plenty of girls out there that nutrition does not equate to low body fat, to low numbers on the scale. Good for you!

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danielle December 8, 2012 at 4:45 pm

Thanks so much Caitlin! I am taking lots of inspiration from other bloggers (yourself included) to share with a lot more honesty on my blog!

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April December 7, 2012 at 9:19 pm

Good stuff! I so agree that we need more nutrionists like this. People need to know that there are no quick fixes just healthy choices made day by day. “Skinny” doesn’t always equate to healthy. I know plenty of skinny people that have horrible nutrition. I saw a quote once that I really liked….”Strong trumps Skinny”…Thank you for your posts!

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danielle December 8, 2012 at 4:45 pm

Thanks so much for the support April!

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Domenica December 7, 2012 at 10:18 pm

Danielle,

Staying true to yourself and others has paid off by the encouragement I am witnessing in the responses you have received. Everyone of us who has ever felt not thin enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough, not popular enough can learn from your words. Most of all, your sweetness, your willingness to expose yourself of your vulnerabilities and your courage are what really matter, because in the end YOU matter- not the body but mind and heart. Thank you so much for reminding us of that and inspiring us to do our best. With Love, Domenica

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danielle December 8, 2012 at 4:46 pm

Thank you so much Domenica! The support I have received is incredible and only makes me want to share more because if we can teach one person the message that they are enough, I will be happy!

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Silvana December 8, 2012 at 3:48 pm

Danielle, I have known you and your family for a long time, you were just a baby when I met you, and I was a teenager. You and your entire family are beautiful inside and out, I truly mean this! Reading your post has made me extremely emotional, and even as I sit and comment, I am still crying….we have all been there in struggling with our weight, especially myself, diet after diet, gym after gym, trainer after trainer, just when you start to believe that nothing is going to work for you, then you walk into that doctors office in complete helplessness and they prescribe you an anti depressant med, I’ve been here and done it all! So where am I going with this, well, I read you post and frankly that man is an ass, and well he knows nothing about you as a person so he is so quick to judge and I like yourself need time before I speak, because my first instinct would have been to 1. Punch him in the face, and when he was down, 2. I probably would have kicked him in the genitals!….so you see you handled yourself much better than myself. After reading your post, you have inspired me to get back on my diet and hit the gym again….so if I do encounter thin man I will be able to have the inner strength to handle myself in a professional manner!

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danielle December 8, 2012 at 4:53 pm

Thanks Silvana! So happy I inspired you to get back in the gym! It is amazing to hear everyone’s stories through these comments of how everyone has been in similar spots with their diets, weight, self image. I am so excited to share all the experiences I can to help other women feel their best and love the support I am receiving in doing so :)

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Kasey@POWERCAKES December 9, 2012 at 11:48 pm

Wow what an amazing post! Everyone should read this. This is so perfect with #beTRUEtoYOU and I would love to feature this! <3 you're amazing!

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danielle December 10, 2012 at 5:40 pm

Thanks so much Kasey! I’d be honored to have you feature it :)

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Heather @ For the Love of Kale December 16, 2012 at 3:12 pm

Danielle – YES! YES! YES! I love seeing this side of you – the honest, raw, confident, amazing person you are TRULY shining through. Keep this going. It’s awesome!!!

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danielle December 16, 2012 at 5:04 pm

Thanks so much Heather! Your support and positive energy means the world to me!

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Meredith @ DareYouTo December 22, 2012 at 11:34 pm

So wonderful that you can recognize the difference, the inaccuracy of your friend’s comment and the value in how far you’ve come and what you have to offer.

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danielle December 23, 2012 at 9:41 pm

Thanks so much meredith!

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