Own Your Goals

by danielle on January 17, 2013

I am currently loving this website. I’ve been catching up on her awesome videos that come out weekly and one struck me in particular. In was an interview with the author of the book Pro. They spoke about the difference between a professional and an amateur and I quickly learned that I had been living my life as an amateur for a very long time. Let me explain: I struggled for a long time with self esteem. I never truly owned the person I was. I was deeply afraid to let my goals be heard and therefore never went after what I desired all the way. Let’s take dance for example. I never owned the fact that I was a dancer. When I graduated from college and moved to New York, I never once uttered the fact that I was a professional dancer. I never once dressed like a professional dancer, I hid behind clothes because I hated how I looked. I didn’t own my image as a dancer and therefore I was destined to my waitressing job.

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Fast forward a couple years. I was working on developing my nutrition business but didn’t consider myself a “nutritionist” that was until this awesome lady, asked me what I told people I did for work. I quickly realized that I would often answer that I had a bunch of part time jobs, group fitness, lululemon, etc… and often felt ashamed to say so. She had me snap right out of that. Now when people ask me what I do for work I tell them I am a nutrition expert. I live and breathe nutrition every day. I constantly am owning my craft. I read nutrition books, I keep up on mailing lists, I work on my blog, I perfect my own nutrition. I dedicate myself to my business.

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Now let’s talk CrossFit. When I started CrossFit I was in total fear that I loved it but thought I would never be good enough. It would be dance all over again. Always okay but never quite the best. Then I realized something, the reason I was never the best was because I didn’t think I could be. Now I consider myself a CrossFitter. I compete because I can. I work on my skills after class because I want to be good. I want to improve. I own my craft.

So I want you to pick something to own right now. Maybe it’s your job, maybe it’s a hobby you love but never got quite serious about, maybe it’s your body image.

How are you going to dress to perfect this?

What are you going to do?

What will you accomplish once you have gone professional?

Remember I’m always here to help you reach your goals!

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Lucie January 17, 2013 at 9:37 am

-Such- a great post. I never thought about approaching this issue like this but it is so true!! I am pretty convinced that I am a HIIT-er – sounds weird, but it’s my absolute fave workout and it is so variable which I need in my workouts. I also ordered and bought better workout gear to perfect it. And I will lookout for new variations all the time.
I love that you are a Crossfitter, Dancer and Nutririonist!! What a fantastic combo!!

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danielle January 17, 2013 at 1:04 pm

Hahaha it’s okay to call yourself an HIIT-er! Thanks Lucie!

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Anna @AnnaTheApple January 17, 2013 at 12:52 pm

Love this post and I’m glad you’re not shying away from your amazing achievements. Even after running for months and months I never considered myself a ‘runner’. I now pretty much shout it from the rooftops. You’ve got to be proud of what you can do, whether it’s nuclear science or lifting stupidly heavy weights!

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danielle January 17, 2013 at 1:05 pm

Thanks so much Anna! So happy your proud of your running too!

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Chelsea @ One Healthy Munchkin January 17, 2013 at 12:54 pm

I LOVE this post! I’m so glad you’ve found confidence in yourself as a nutritionist and CrossFitter – you rock at both of those things! :D

I’ve struggled with self esteem issues too, so I’ve always had a hard time accepting what I deserve. This post was really inspiring to me!

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danielle January 17, 2013 at 1:05 pm

Thanks so much Chelsea! I’m so happy you were inspired. You have so much to be proud of yourself and I hope you realize that!

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Miz January 17, 2013 at 12:55 pm

OH
Ive never seen that site!
Ill be back….after I peruse :-)

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danielle January 17, 2013 at 1:05 pm

You will love it! She is awesome!

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Linz @ Itz Linz January 17, 2013 at 1:10 pm

it took me awhile to consider myself a “runner.” (and since, i’ve had to take a break from running. boo) but once i did own that title, i loved it. darn right i’m a runner! doesn’t matter about time, speed, or distance – more of a mentality thing!

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danielle January 17, 2013 at 6:06 pm

Yes you are!!!! And an awesome runner at that!

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Michelle @ Eat Move Balance January 17, 2013 at 1:25 pm

Interesting site–I just clicked over. Thanks for the link. I think there’s lots of valuable information there, and self-esteem is something I could stand to work on a bit.

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danielle January 17, 2013 at 6:06 pm

Marie is awesome! So helpful!

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Kim@hungryhealthygirl January 17, 2013 at 1:26 pm

I love getting this glimpse into your life and I love your newfound attitude. Way to go!

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danielle January 17, 2013 at 6:06 pm

Thanks so much Kim!

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Fit Missy January 17, 2013 at 1:54 pm

I love Marie F. too. She is amazing!!!

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danielle January 17, 2013 at 6:06 pm

Isn’t she?! So inspiring!

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Paige @ Your Trainer Paige January 17, 2013 at 3:38 pm

What awesome advice. I could definitely use this today. Thanks, Danielle :)

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danielle January 17, 2013 at 6:07 pm

So glad Paige! You have so much to be proud of too. You are an amazing trainer!

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Kierston January 17, 2013 at 3:48 pm

Awesome. Just awesome :)

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danielle January 17, 2013 at 6:07 pm
Amanda @ .running with spoons. January 17, 2013 at 4:34 pm

This post is me to a T. I’ve always had a hard time talking about my accomplishments – I’d gloss over them and make them seem like they were no big deal. When people would ask me what I was doing, I rushed my way through answering them and would always try to shift the conversation back to them so I could avoid talking about myself. Truth be told, it’s something that I still struggle with, but I’ve been making -some- progress. Baby steps :)

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danielle January 17, 2013 at 6:08 pm

We will both get there. I’m taking baby steps myself. It’s definitely hard to admit our accomplishments but why not?!

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Rachel @ painfreekitchen January 17, 2013 at 4:54 pm

Such a great and uplifting post! I’m embarrassed to say I’ve always had the opposite of self-esteem problems. (Maybe from a little too much support from my parents). I always had to be the best in everything: school, dance, theater. I thought, if I can’t be great at it, then why do it?

I’m actually working now on reminding myself that I don’t have to be the best. That it’s OK just to have fun and not everything is going to be perfect. Especially when it comes to my blog. Got so preoccupied in making every post “perfect,” eating extra clean, pushing myself harder at the gym. Which is great except that I would beat myself up if I felt like I didn’t perform the way I wanted to.

Something to keep in mind when building your self-esteem. You are awesome. And what you do is awesome. But if it ever isn’t awesome, it’s not a big deal :)

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danielle January 17, 2013 at 6:09 pm

Love this Rachel. Thanks for thoughts. I am a total perfectionist myself so I 100% understand. I think this is why I beat myself up so much. But you are 100% right, it is totally okay sometimes to just be mediocre!

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Lisa January 17, 2013 at 5:17 pm

Need to check out the site asap! This is really great advice Danielle! I’m absolutely loving these more personal posts you’re putting together.

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danielle January 17, 2013 at 6:08 pm

Thanks so much Lisa and definitely check out her site. It’s so informative and fun!

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Sarah @ mymostlyhealthylife.com January 17, 2013 at 5:30 pm

Thanks so much! I’ve been recently stuggling with trying to embrace my own body, and I’m starting to get much better at it! Like yourself, I don’t take pride in my job title. I enjoy my job, but it’s not exactly what I’m passionate about. Now you have the wheels in my head turning! :)

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danielle January 17, 2013 at 6:08 pm

You will get there Sarah! I have faith :)

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Christina January 17, 2013 at 6:55 pm

amazing and so perfectly said

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danielle January 18, 2013 at 1:32 pm

Thanks Christina!

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Erin (Running Tall) January 17, 2013 at 7:55 pm

This was exactly what I needed to hear! I have the same problem you did with self-esteem and this year I am kicking it in the butt – I’m OWNING my goals and making it happen. Great post!

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danielle January 18, 2013 at 1:32 pm

Yes!!! Amazing! Way to go Erin.

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GiGi Eats Celebrities January 17, 2013 at 8:12 pm

OMG OMG OMG you know what’s SOOOOO funny and ironic! My hosting coach and manager also coaches Marie Forleo!! Small world ;)

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danielle January 18, 2013 at 1:33 pm

No way!!! I love her. So awesome!

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lindsay January 17, 2013 at 8:59 pm

great question. I think pro is dedicated, driven, and never gives up, even if he fails. That’s passion as a pro! let’s think that way, yes?

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danielle January 18, 2013 at 1:33 pm

Love this Lindsay! I’m totally going to think this way!

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Sara @ Nourish and Flourish January 18, 2013 at 5:35 am

This post really resonates with me. For years, I was afraid of throwing myself 110% into my goals because I feared I wouldn’t be good enough. I thought there were better people out there, and that I could no way compete with them. Now I’m finally at a place where I’m ready. I’m pursuing my personal training certification while I finish up my master’s, so that I can do what I’ve always dreamed about doing: owning my own nutrition/training business. I realize that it may take awhile to reach my goals, and that I may have to pick up side jobs to pay the bills, but I’m *owning* my true passions. I’m SO happy you are now, too!! We should chat sometime because it sounds like we have very similar dreams. :) xoxo

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danielle January 18, 2013 at 1:35 pm

I love this Sara! Yes let’s definitely talk because we are so much alike in our goals and ambitions. I love your current outlook on this and it is pretty much where I am at now myself. I know it’s going to take awhile but I am determined to get where I truly see myself!

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Caitlin January 18, 2013 at 9:13 pm

Love love love the direction you have been going lately with this blog Danielle! I need to own my body image and my own self worth. I need to own my confidence in myself and my achievements! I have felt so worthless all day because I haven’t worked out, just did some stretching this morning. I don’t plan to today because I just feel so beat and tired. I just want to go to sleep tonight and wake up feeling like a new woman tomorrow, my old energized self! I need to own the fact that I don’t do this kind of thing (stay out late and skip yoga) every day. I am AMAZING!

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danielle January 19, 2013 at 12:06 am

Yes Caitlin! You are so amazing and you absolutely need to see that ALL the time!

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